Musings on Motherhood

In the grand scheme of things, I know I am not that far along on the journey that is ‘motherhood’, Ā but I do feel like a different person today than I was the day I brought my first son home.

As I reflect on what motherhood has taught me so far, I realise that ‘motherhood’ needs to be lived out on your knees.

Kissing scraped legs, tying shoe laces, checking for monsters under the bed, cleaning up spills, searching for the favourite car under the lounge, applying band-aids, sitting beside the bath, sitting beside the toilet, kneeling beside the cot or the bed.

But then I realise I am on my knees for many other reasons.

These lives. Entrusted to me to raise alongside my husband. What a gift and a privilege. I am on my knees in gratitude for the chance to be called mum by these three.

These lives. Entrusted to me to raise, alongside my husband. Sometimes the enormity of that task overwhelms me at every turn.

Am I enough for them? Do I smile enough, listen enough, am I strict enough, fun enough, tough enough? Do I love enough, forgive enough, teach enough? Am I wise enough?

So I find myself on my knees again. Seeking wisdom and strength for the days where I just don’t think I am enough for them on my own.

It doesn’t take long in my reflections on motherhood for me to start thinking about my own mum.

No doubt she had many of the above thoughts herself at times. But when I look back and think ‘what was her secret to being a mum?’ I see a cycle of Love, Service, Sacrifice and the Seeking of Wisdom.

I am beyond thankful for that example of motherhood in my own mum, and in these later years of my life, that I’ve also found in my mother-in-law.

This Mother’s Day I thank and honour them.

LOVE

SERVE

SACRIFICE

SEEK WISDOM

REPEAT.

 

 

 

Apple and Cinnamon Muffins

So my family have been a little obsessed with the combination of apples and cinnamon lately. This very simple recipe worked beautifully in a 20cm round cake tin as well as in muffin cases.

One of my boys who doesn’t actually like cake, has told me he would like this for his birthday this year! Too easy!

If you want to make 1 large round cake, cook it at the same temperature for longer, probably 35-40 minutes. Always check with a skewer to make sure it’s cooked. Ā 

I used sour cherries again as we love them, but sultanas or pecans would be just as good. As the boys were taking these for morning tea at school, I didn’t use any nuts.

Makes 12 muffins or 1 round 20cm cake

Ingredients

1 egg

2 medium granny smith apples, skin on, chopped into quite small pieces

3/4 cup sugar (OR 1/2 cup coconut sugar and 1/4 cup castor sugar for a lower GI option) *see note below

100gm butter, melted

1 teaspoon of cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon mixed spice

1/2 cup sour cherries, sultanas or pecans

1 cup self raising flour

Method

Combine all ingredients in a bowl and stir to combine.

Fill muffin cases to 3/4 full and bake at 180 degrees celsius for 18-20 minutes or until cooked.

*A quick word on coconut sugar – at the end of the day, it’s still sugar. We shouldn’t eat heaps of it, but when comparing sugars, it is considered healthier than refined white sugar or brown sugar. It has a lower glycemic index than other sugars and has a higher nutrient value, that is, it’s a good source ofĀ potassium, zinc, magnesium and iron. Health experts put coconut sugar in the same category as honey, slightly better for you and more natural than table sugar, but still something we shouldn’t be consuming in excess.

 

Slow Cooked Beef Stroganoff

When our third son was born almost 9 weeks premature, our life turned upside down for a short period.

My husband had just taken over the ownership of a business a few months prior to my forced bed rest and we already had 2 gorgeous and busy boys at home.

Seeing life through the lens of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit was indeed life changing for us. Tiny, precious sick babies. So much silence, except for life saving machines beeping and the sound of the nurses (otherwise known as angels) hushed tones. Catching the eyes of the other parents huddled around their babies’ plastic incubators, not needing to speak but understanding in one glance.

This was a humbling time.

And chaotic. How to be a mum at home with 2 boys, and yet be by the side of this one who I didn’t want to leave, even for a second.

What’s this got to do with food I hear you say?

We were literally ‘carried’ through the weeks and months that followed, by family and friends who picked up our life, our pieces, our kids, our laundry.

And they fed us.

Meals, turned up, every night for at least 6 weeks. You cannot underestimate the power in giving a meal. For my husband juggling home and work, this was life saving. For me, who was living between hospital and home, this home cooked goodness was more than nourishing for my body.

As each meal arrived, accompanied usually by a warm hug, we knew we were not alone.

Over the years, I have been blessed to be on the receiving end of so many meals. I will never forget the day my beautiful friend who works full time, turned up on my door step with a hug, a BBQ chook, a yummy salad and a tub of ice cream. Sadly, the first thing she said was “sorry it’s not homemade.”

What she didn’t realise is that on that day, in that situation, that offering meant the world to us. In her limited time and capacity, she Ā gave to us.

One of the ways I love to love on people is through food. Surprise.

To give a meal, fancy or simple, bought or homemade, is so much more than feeding them.

It says ” We see you. Your situation matters. I wish I could fix it. I wish I could heal your pain, sickness, grief.”

Often we can’t do any of that.

But we can take a meal.

And these days, none of us need to look too far to find someone suffering, sick, struggling, alone, on the edge.

This Beef Stroganoff is a great one to do in a large quantity in a slow cooker. To make 2 portions, one for your family and one for another family is not that hard. It is one I have often given away. You may be reading this and have actually eaten it!

If you are planning on giving this one a go, I hope you get the chance to give some of it away and in doing so, BLESS someone richly in the process.

I found this recipe years ago, trawling the internet for good slow cooker recipes. I have no idea where, but as I have played with it a lot to make it my own…I’ll take credit for it now šŸ™‚

The quantity below is usually enough for us (2 adults 3 kids) and another family of a similar size.

Ingredients

1.2kg of gravy beef, chuck steak or shin beef Ā (I used to get the butcher to cut this into strips for me, but it dries the meat out too much that way. I now keep it in really large chunks of meat and at the end of the cooking time, shred the meat up with a fork. It stays nice and moist this way.)

1/3 cup plain flour

1 teaspoon sweet paprika

1 brown onion, finely chopped

2 cloves garlic, crushed

400gm can diced tomatoes

1/4 cup of tomato sauce

1 heaped teaspoon of vegemite (you might think this strange, but once when I had no beef stock, I used this instead and loved the result!)

2-3 tablespoons of dry sherry

500gm of button mushrooms, washed and sliced

1 cup sour cream (for those who can’t have dairy, you don’t need to add this, it’s just as yummy without it. But it is the secret to making it very creamy!)

Pappardelle Pasta or Steamed greens to serve

Method

Place beef, flour and paprika in a plastic bag and give it a big shake to coat the meat.

Put the meat in the slow cooker and add all the other ingredients, except the sour cream.

Cook for 5- 6 hours (an hour or so less if using HIGH, an hour more if using LOW)

Check it a few times if you can and give it a stir.

With 30 minutes or so to go, stir in the sour cream and leave the lid off.

TIP Ā – if you are planning on freezing this for someone else, freeze it before adding the sour cream. You can just give them sour cream to add themselves when it’s reheated.

Serve with pappardelle pasta, or on it’s own with vegies on the side.

 

 

 

Caramelised Cinnamon Apples with Maple Syrup Yoghurt

Autumn.

My favourite season of the year.

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Cool mornings and snuggly evenings by the fire. Sunny days or rainy days, beautiful trees awash with amber and piles of Autumn leaves crunching under foot.

When it comes to the kitchen, nothing says Autumn to me quite like apples and cinnamon.

The smell of apple and cinnamon cooking is oh so comforting, especially if the air outside is cool and the rain is just starting to fall, like it was when I made this dessert for our weekly family dessert night.

This simple dessert is a combination of some of my favourite things. Apples, Cinnamon, Nutmeg and Maple Syrup. The chopping of the apples is the most strenuous part of this recipe. The whole thing should really only take you about 15 minutes to prepare.

Once again, the original recipe belongs to Belinda Jeffery, an Aussie Food legend, and is found in her DESSERTS cook book.

My tweak was to use dried sour cherries instead of sultanas as some of my family don’t like sultanas.

This served 5 small dessert size portions.

Ingredients

5 large sweet apples (Pink Lady, Red Gala or Fuji), peeled, cored, and chopped into quarters and then each quarter sliced into 3.

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg

15gm butter

1 teaspoon of olive oil

1/2 cup apple juice

1 teaspoon of vanilla extract, or 1 vanilla bean, halved lengthwise

2 tablespoons maple syrup

1/3 cup dried sour cherries, or sultanas

Maple Syrup Yoghurt

1 cup thick greek style yoghurt

1 tablespoon of maple syrup

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Method

Toss the apples in a bowl with cinnamon and nutmeg and stir to coat.

Melt the butter and olive oil in a large frying pan and add apples.

Make sure they are in a single layer and cook for a few minutes while they caramelise, stir a couple of times.

Pour in juice and vanilla and cover the pan and let apples cook for approx 10 minutes until apples are soft.

Remove the apples with a slotted spoon and place into a bowl.

Add sour cherries and maple syrup to the pan and simmer till thick and syrupy. Pour over apples and allow to cool slightly.

To make the yoghurt, combine all the ingredients in a bowl and stir.

To serve, place apple mixture in dessert glasses or bowls and top with Maple Syrup Yoghurt.

 

 

 

 

A Chicken Curry The Kids Will Eat

It’s a bit of give and take in most homes when it comes to deciding what’s for dinner.

A common complaint in our house is “but you know this isn’t my favourite!” to which the reply is something like “That’s right. We had your favourite two nights ago. This is X’s favourite tonight. We don’t all get to eat exactly what we want every single night. There are 5 people to consider and it will be rare if we are all 100% happy with the dinner choice every single night. So be thankful and just EAT it!” Said with a loving and patient tone of course šŸ™‚

My husband and I love curries and have struggled over the years to get the kids to eat them with us. I have gone through the stage of making one for us and something else for them, and I’ve come to the point where I don’t want to make multiple meals anymore.

There are those times where we will order our favourite take away curries and have those as a special ‘home date night’ after feeding the kids something simpleĀ and putting them to bed.

I recently tried another less complicated approach to a curry from one of my all time favourite cooks, Bill Granger. I love his simple approach to good home cooking, his small list of ingredients and easy steps that produce beautiful food. If there is a cook book I couldn’t live without, it would be his ‘Bills Basics’.

This Chicken Curry is from that book and instead of fussing with a whole lot of ingredients, a mortar and pestle to make your own paste or powder, he simple suggests to use a few tablespoons of a good curry powder. Ā This was such a hit and EVERYONE ate it in our house, even the 3 year old! I have made few small changes to the original recipe.

The quantity below served 2 adults and 3 kids with enough for leftovers for 1 the next day.

Ingredients

8 chicken thigh fillets, cut into quarters

2 tablespoons of curry powder (I used AYAM brand). If you are wanting to introduce curry to your kids and are nervous, you could cut this back a bit and see how it goes. We didn’t find it too spicy though.

1 tablespoon olive oil

2 kaffir lime leaves (Kaffir Lime leaves can be found in the fresh food section of a supermarket with the herbs. They add such a beautiful flavour to Asian cooking. I buy them in a container and keep them in the freezer for months. You can just take a leaf or 2 straight out of the freezer and pop it straight into the dish.)

1 tablespoon of ginger paste or grated fresh ginger

2 tablespoons fish sauce

1/2 tablespoon of brown sugar

1/2 a small sweet potato (Kumera), peeled and cut into small cubes

3-4 small potatoes, peeled and cut into small cubes

a handful of green beans, cut into small pieces

400ml chicken stock

1 cup coconut milk

Fresh coriander leaves and stalks, roughly chopped to garnish for serving

Method

Toss the chicken pieces in the curry powder to coat. You can do this in a plastic bag or just in a bowl.

Heat the oil in a large pan over medium heat.

Add the chicken and cook until browned all over.

Add the kaffir lime leaves, ginger, fish sauce, brown sugar, sweet potato, potato and chicken stock and bring to the boil. Cover, reduce heat to a simmer and cook for 20 minutes or until the chicken and vegies are cooked.

Stir in the coconut milk and green beans and simmer with the lid off for another 5 minutes or so to thicken the sauce.

Serve on it’s own garnished with coriander or with rice.